Meeting the girl of your dreams is one thing, for most men actually approaching her and initiating a conversation is quite another. It makes it even worse when the girl we’ve been dreaming about from across the room gets into a conversation with a new guy that just walked in after you ! So what is it – feeling of rejection, shyness, just scared frozen….putting a girl on a pedestal thinking that she is better than you and then the insecurities kick in, saying to yourself if she is better why would she be interested in you ?
Truth is having confidence and technique is just like anything else, it can be learnt and applied – No different to learning a foreign language. We have learnt many things from a child to now so why stop ? Here are some basic pointers to get you going on the road to a new and improved life !
Body Language – Check the eye contact. Nothing reveals more on whether a girl is interested than eyes. Also, whether or not her body is open. For example, are her arms folded – She may not be in the mood for talking. On the other hand if you get a look back, more open posture and a smile you really want to get over there.
Attentive – When you get to talk to her, break the ice and listen for whats she says. Quite often you can build entire conversations just out of something she may have on her mind that day and if you roll with it it will give you a chance to show you are listening to her about something that is at the forefront of her mind…and swing the probability of her wanting to speak with you more in your favour.
Don’t Slouch – Slouching is just plain unattractive. Try to develop good posture. Do some research on The Alexander Technique or Pilates for keeping your back straight. you’ll look taller and also feel more confident naturally. There’s a reason why there are so many advertisements for getting rid of a pot belly and gaining a six-pack. Six-pack attractive, pot belly not attractive.
Dress decent – Not to say you should be wearing a white shirt and bow tie but whatever you have on girls tend to notice the little things, shirt ironed, soles worn on shoes and whether you have married a particular clothing that it is clearly past its sell-by date. The best investment one can make here if its possible is to get fitted clothes. It can’t be emphasised enough the difference between an off the hook item and a perfectly fitted one.
Everyone is different so it is difficult to be anymore specific in this short article, apply these pointers to how you would address them and let your personality shine through.
These days the use of social media and technology has revolutionised everyday life. Use your social technology to find new friends online or for making arrangements with existing friends, meet up with them in real life and go from there.
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