Will your marriage survive your mate’s infidelity? Presently you are the only one who can answer that. The reason that it is up to you to make the final decision is due to the fact your spouse has given every indication that they want to remain in the relationship. They’ve done wrong and know it. They promise to do whatever is necessary to restore the marriage.

Whether you will or will not remain to be seen but there are a few points to keep in mind.

1. Never Panic

Thinking about the future can be unnerving. Especially if you have been in a marital relationship for quite a while and then decide to go it alone. Don’t let fear of the unknown influence your decision. You are connected to your spouse in many ways but that does not mean complete and utter dependence. If you choose to go it alone so be it. You may be a little shaky in the beginning but eventually you will learn how to be self sufficient. Better to have a short lived rough learning experience that remain with someone that you feel that you can never trust again.

2. Don’t Back Off

In the event you do decide to hang in there then set some parameters in regards to how things are going to be from now on and stick to them. Your spouse may get angry over these parameters and attempt to do away with them. But the hard cold truth is they must make radical lifestyle modifications before you can even think about trusting them again.. At times there effort is going to be lacking. There could also be instances when they try to manipulate you and thereby taking control or the realtionship. No matter what they try it is critical that you do not back down.

3. Be Realistic

Your recovery from unfaithfulness may take quite some time so do not let your impatience overwhelm you. Certainly you wish the negative images and depressing thoughts to go away. That goes also for the fear of wondering what your spouse is up to every time they are out of your sight. Eventually all of this will pass but for right now accept the fact that it is going to be there for awhile and the only thing you can do is deal with it.

4. Do Some Cheerleading

If you notice your significant other making a determined and sustained effort to rebuild the marriage and earning your trust back then cheer on their efforts. Bring back those date nights and rekindle the romance. Let them know how much you still love and care for them. Standing over them like some prison guard as they go through the process of rehabilitating is not going to give them a whole lot of motivation to keep at it.

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